The Single Life

Mood: Still Spaced out
Song: I Need Love Lloyd ft Dream

Soooo....I have been single for officially 4 months now. Never thought in a million years that I would not still be with my ex....We met in undergrad. He was my first love. I guess there comes a time when two people grow apart, its a part of life. I am actually taking it better than I thought I would. At one point of time I thought that I could not live without him, but I am proud to say that I can. Its not good to think like that anyway, you should not be so co-dependent on a person.

Being in the single world made me realize something though. Not ALL....but alot guys in my generation are real lazy when it comes to dating/relationships. Its seems like they don't want to work for anything....Now I understand that women are to blame to a certain extent...We have accepted certain behaviors that should not be accepted. I am still pretty young, but I am pretty much in the mid 20 range now...which means enough of the games.

I am at the stage where I am open to meeting new people. I guess that urge comes from being in a relationship from age 18-23. The guy I was with is a really great person. I can say that have had a chance to be with someone who did treat me good. Since I have been treated good in the past, I can tell when a guy is a good one or being a jerk. But I do have a weakness for those attractive, intelligent types....

When it comes to men, character is a biggie for me. When I say that "It's the little things that count.", I mean it. I observe how thoughtful the guy is to me and others. I observe how they treat their family and friends. I observe how honest they can be with me. One thing my mother told me that I live by is to make sure that the man I choose to be with naturally treats me the way I want to be treated. There are alot (not all!) of young men out here that do not know how to treat a lady. I am talking about the basics like opening the door, carrying bags that you may be struggling with, etc. which is a shame! It starts at home and if I have sons, I will make sure that I raise them to be gentlemen and respectful. I don't want my sons to be a burden on their wives. I want them to know how to respond to women. But I think that alot of mothers enable their sons, which is why some act the way they act. I am not trying to place the blame completely on women....but as a young lady, I am now realizing that women have more control than some of us realize....